Author Maya Angelou offers a wonderful hope for not complaining:
“If you don’t like something, change it.
If you can’t change it, change your attitude.
What excellent advice Maya gives, but it is often not easy to follow. Sometimes people are powerless to change things, and sometimes they have strong, unyielding opinions that are difficult to change about those things.
The secret is in the last sentence of Maya’s quotation: “Don’t complain.” Things may not change, attitudes may not change, but complainers can choose not to complain out loud.
There are many complainers, but there are also many silent sufferers who are unable to change their circumstances or their attitudes about something that has hurt them very deeply–so deeply that they do not talk about or complain about it to others.
These hurts are often mental and emotional bruises and wounds that are never seen on people’s exterior countenances or in their speech or mannerisms.
There is much evidence that proves it is beneficial for people with these types of bruises and wounds to vent their complaints to someone, especially an experienced professional who knows how to help people who suffer from mental or emotional trauma.
People have different religious and spiritual beliefs that help them heal from illnesses, pains, wounds, bruises, and hurts of all kinds. As part of my core spiritual and healing beliefs, I believe that Nature is a great mood enhancer and healer.
In the book, Blinded by Science, Author Matthew Silverstone proves scientifically that trees improve depression, headaches, ADHD, concentration, reaction times, and mental illness.
The African Bantu tribes have a spring ceremony during which they offer their personal, traumatic wounds to a tree. During the ceremony, as they celebrate their intentions to never speak out loud about their wounds again, the Bantu tribes give their wounds to a tree for healing purposes.
I do not know if this Bantu ceremony actually heals the wounds of the Bantu tribes, but this or a similar ceremony–during which people vow to never speak out loud about their complaints again–could certainly be very therapeutic and healing.
This year “Tree Hugging Day” is March 19, 2012, the eve of the March 20th spring equinox. March 19th could be a good day to venture into Nature specifically to have private ceremonies, where people release old wounds and complaints.
That way, the spring equinox could mark a fresh, new complaint-free beginning for the rest of the year.
Below is a YouTube video of Patti LaBelle singing “I Can’t Complain.”
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